My whole life... the only books I've read willingly were encyclopedias and books on animals. The total number of books I've read in my whole life... They can amount to the number of fingers I have on 1 hand.
The other books read were text books... I never had the patience to finish reading a book. Many a times I've tried to cultivate the habit of reading well because even fools know reading alot is good for you. I'm just to lazy... Every book I've tried to start off with, I've never successfully read finish it.
So from here you can guess how extremely unexpected it is for me to read a book.
Miracles do happen you know. Certain things happened to me and well due to the effects of these certain things I've started reading. Pardon my language but holy shit reading really helps!
I've just finished reading my first book. and I'll tell you just this one book alot I've learnt a tremendous amount of knowledge. This just tells me how much knowledge floating in the world I've missed out.
Guys who are similar to me who do not have the habit of reading, start. Yes, it's coming from me. The least expected person to read. It's never to late to start reading. What types of books to read? It's up to youk explore the kind that interests you.
Monday 18 June 2007
Sunday 10 June 2007
Relationship Requirements - Communication
I do mean only mean love relationships between a male and a female. It covers all forms of relationship between people. Family, relatives, friends, superiors, subordinates, and yes... between two lovers...
Have you ever gone through the phase of life, whereby you feel that people don't understand you? Due to that emotion, you shut people away who you think don't understand you. You can't be bothered to talk to them.
One very fine example, myself. I always do things on my own without communicating with my family. It need not be asking for permission. Just simple notifications, how you are feeling and why you do the things that you do. I failed to communicate with my parents and they got worried. They don't know how I'm living my life outside. This miscommunication brought tears to my mother's eyes once. From then on, I realised all these would not have happened if I had just communicated.
My parents trust me to do the right things. However its a blind trust because they don't know what's going on with my life. Thus worries start happening. Imagine if I had just communicated that little bit more to shed the light on their worries, would all the unhappiness occur? No. What would have happened instead? They would'nt have worried and both my parents and I could happily carry on doing the things we set out to do. I wouldn't have felt that my parents didn't understand me and did my things with a heavy hart, and my parents could carry on with their work without worries for me.
Lesson learnt here for everyone who feels that people don't understand you... Have you placed yourself in their shoes and see if you understood yourself? How are they going to understand if you don't tell? It is like asking a 1 yr old to explain to you the harmful effects of X-Ray on human cells. No matter how intelligent a person may be, he/she needs to given access to information/knowledge to progress futher.
Everytime someone misunderstands you, try this, re-enact the whole scene of misunderstanding debates with a different perspective. Imagine you had explained to them patiently what they misunderstood and let them understand before hand. Would the "debate" occur?
Have you ever gone through the phase of life, whereby you feel that people don't understand you? Due to that emotion, you shut people away who you think don't understand you. You can't be bothered to talk to them.
One very fine example, myself. I always do things on my own without communicating with my family. It need not be asking for permission. Just simple notifications, how you are feeling and why you do the things that you do. I failed to communicate with my parents and they got worried. They don't know how I'm living my life outside. This miscommunication brought tears to my mother's eyes once. From then on, I realised all these would not have happened if I had just communicated.
My parents trust me to do the right things. However its a blind trust because they don't know what's going on with my life. Thus worries start happening. Imagine if I had just communicated that little bit more to shed the light on their worries, would all the unhappiness occur? No. What would have happened instead? They would'nt have worried and both my parents and I could happily carry on doing the things we set out to do. I wouldn't have felt that my parents didn't understand me and did my things with a heavy hart, and my parents could carry on with their work without worries for me.
Lesson learnt here for everyone who feels that people don't understand you... Have you placed yourself in their shoes and see if you understood yourself? How are they going to understand if you don't tell? It is like asking a 1 yr old to explain to you the harmful effects of X-Ray on human cells. No matter how intelligent a person may be, he/she needs to given access to information/knowledge to progress futher.
Everytime someone misunderstands you, try this, re-enact the whole scene of misunderstanding debates with a different perspective. Imagine you had explained to them patiently what they misunderstood and let them understand before hand. Would the "debate" occur?
Saturday 9 June 2007
Words of Wisdom - 2
When you encounter a "bad" experiance;
Remember the fruitful lessons that makes you stronger and leave the pain behind.
Why would I type the word bad with " " ? Because everything happens for a reason.
Remember the fruitful lessons that makes you stronger and leave the pain behind.
Why would I type the word bad with " " ? Because everything happens for a reason.
Monday 4 June 2007
Things happen for a reason.
People say bad things come in 3s. I disagree. The amount of bad things that happen to you is the amount of things you take for granted and become complacent about. Many things have happened to me these past few days; nothing serious though.
1st - I missed the deadline for paying ERP summon. Now it has hiked to $70 bucks and I just received the letter.
2nd - Remembered the parking coupon system wrongly and didnt put a coupon thinking it was a public holiday. Got another summon for that.
3rd - Looking for a new job, filled up application forms, my fax machine spoilt. Cannot fax out the forms.
4th - Knocked into another car in a carpark lot. It was not moving. What was I thinking.
5th - Supposed to pass forms for dad to use office fax machine but forgot. Another day wasted.
6th - Misunderstood and assumed by my father, again, about why things happened and got lectured for the wrong reasons.
If you take 3 times two, then I guess yea... bad things do happen in 3s... Just that I got double of it. Bad things may happen but they happen for a reason. I guess these events occured as a lesson for me.
Lessons and reminders:
1: Pay summons early!
2: Be more familier with parking systems!
3: I somehow knew I knocked the car because I was complacent about my driving. I didnt think it will knock and just carried on moving forward. So... Lesson learnt here is when things go very smoothly for a long time... in this case almost 5 yrs... we get complacent and become less careful.
4: Don't assume the causes of bad things that happen to people. I know. The feeling of being misunderstood is really really bad. So you don't want people to misunderstand you... Don't assume others.
This is not a sad post. I'm just whining, but I'm okay. Haha! Just want to share the lessons learnt.
For everything that you think is bad happens, pick out the leassons learnt and leave behind the pain. Easier said than done but it can be done. Not immediately, but take some time to calm down and think clearly.
1st - I missed the deadline for paying ERP summon. Now it has hiked to $70 bucks and I just received the letter.
2nd - Remembered the parking coupon system wrongly and didnt put a coupon thinking it was a public holiday. Got another summon for that.
3rd - Looking for a new job, filled up application forms, my fax machine spoilt. Cannot fax out the forms.
4th - Knocked into another car in a carpark lot. It was not moving. What was I thinking.
5th - Supposed to pass forms for dad to use office fax machine but forgot. Another day wasted.
6th - Misunderstood and assumed by my father, again, about why things happened and got lectured for the wrong reasons.
If you take 3 times two, then I guess yea... bad things do happen in 3s... Just that I got double of it. Bad things may happen but they happen for a reason. I guess these events occured as a lesson for me.
Lessons and reminders:
1: Pay summons early!
2: Be more familier with parking systems!
3: I somehow knew I knocked the car because I was complacent about my driving. I didnt think it will knock and just carried on moving forward. So... Lesson learnt here is when things go very smoothly for a long time... in this case almost 5 yrs... we get complacent and become less careful.
4: Don't assume the causes of bad things that happen to people. I know. The feeling of being misunderstood is really really bad. So you don't want people to misunderstand you... Don't assume others.
This is not a sad post. I'm just whining, but I'm okay. Haha! Just want to share the lessons learnt.
For everything that you think is bad happens, pick out the leassons learnt and leave behind the pain. Easier said than done but it can be done. Not immediately, but take some time to calm down and think clearly.
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